Showing anger in constructive manner is good for career

There are always complaints about my anger. I understand people take time to face me only for this reason. And a bit clever guys take facility of this by creating situations where I loose my temper and leave the control to them. Now its not something I can remove from my nature completely. I read many articles and discussed with many people. And found suggestions like think before you talk, take a break. But end of the day when its rush and many mistakes around, I again the same person. So I stopped acting that I don't get angry rather started to think how can I use it in constructive manner. This article I found more logical - Showing anger is good for career.

After studying several I found 7 points which is a bit working for me as I feel it touches the root thoughts of mine and helps me use my anger in constructive manner.

I do not have permission to rant a situation

Its my house or my workplace, normally when I am superior, a responsibility works inside me which gives a authority to guide or correct others. Every day there is possibility of new situations/problem may arise which I have also not seen earlier and have to lead to solve that. And initially all comes to participate to solve that willingly but this the anger which creates a harsh situation and spoils the freshness and rant the situation. 

Who gave me the authority to rant the situation?

Shouting will create more noise

Normally anger arises from noises that surrounding creates. And we think a big shout may bring silence but normally it not. It rather brings more noise and dissatisfaction in others which bursts slowly and lasts longer. 

Frustration is way to innovation

One of the main reason of anger is frustration. Frustration normally comes when I am failing but every time I fail, I cannot stop my life but I always have to give a new try with new idea and honestly it normally far better than earlier. So now I think less of failure which creates anger and try to make me happy of thinking something new is coming.

Argument cannot establish right

I cannot tolerate if someone is saying something wrong in front of me. And I try to argue until he agrees on logical points. And that is the big mistake I do. For that moment for strong logics he may get silent or say some stupid things but  basically he has not agreed. But in this process I get angry. As this argument is not bringing any good then why to waste time on that rather better approach is to advise him, if he understands better if not let it for him.

I cannot assert my respect forcefully

If I force my children for something, for that moment they may fear me but absolutely it will not bring respect in their mind for me. So forcing which creates anger inside is useless if its to achieve respect.

If I want people listen me, I must listen them

Giving less importance while others are speaking will also make him give less importance while you speak, which is natural to create anger vice/versa.  

No one will understand if they are hurt 

showing anger at someone and later going back to him to say sorry wont make him understand. He is hurt, he will now show sympathy to you but not understand your point anyway. 

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